I have finally decided to write about my weird life. And my little weird experiences. Weird in every available aspect when filling up my particulars in a form like the one below.

I realized that I have so much to say about my journey. I have went down (I wanted to write chosen but I realised that most are not really choices to begin with) the “road less traveled” in every occasion possible. That might give some insights the lives of super minorities like me. The main thing that was holding me back was the fear that any of my family members might come to see this. It’s not too much about them actually seeing it, but their reaction after seeing it, which will in turn affect my parents. And so, this fear kept all my words bottled inside me for the past 10 years or so. But now, I think I am way past legal age to do anything as an adult.
One of the reasons why I have so much to say is because I have always felt like I could see things from all kinds of perspectives, being always in the middle of everything! Like I could give advice on a girl dating a guy from the guy’s perspective and I could also do it from the girl’s perspective. This level of empathy (a positive way of calling it) or this double perspective is a “talent” that comes with my weird-ness!
There are also times when I felt that putting up a permanent FAQ could also answer some of the repeated questions that I get from people that I meet. It starts with my name. When people don’t see my surname first, it’s fine because I sound and look totally local. They might just wonder if I’m Malay or Chinese. But when they see my name…… It’s the prompt for the beginning of a Q & A session. So each time they ask, I’ll just send them this link so they could get everything (almost), that they wanna know.
So here it goes.
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Why is your name like that?!
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Oh! So you can speak Tagalog?
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Oh! So you can speak Chinese?
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All your family in Singapore?
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Are you a boy or a girl?
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So are you married?
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What are you working as?
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Oh! So you have a shop ah!